Foreplay - Your Way

The importance of creating an atmosphere of arousal can be essential in “setting the mood”. Now while “quickies” have their time and place, couples who regularly neglect the art of foreplay are missing out on a vital building block to intimacy and connection.

Why foreplay is so important

Proceptive behaviours, are the scientific term for all things courtship, flirting, the art of seduction, and of course – foreplay. According to Debra Herbenick, PhD, MPH & director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, foreplay can actually make sex more pleasurable. 

“When a woman’s body becomes aroused, the vaginal muscles pull the uterus up a bit, making more room in the vagina…if this doesn’t happen, sex may be uncomfortable for a woman.” Says Herbenick.

Not only does foreplay make sex more pleasurable, but research also suggests that a mere 10 minutes of foreplay led 40% of women to orgasm during intercourse. Yes, that’s right, 40%. That percentage rose significantly with the amount of time dedicated to said foreplay; with 60% of women reaching climax with 20+ minutes dedicated to the connective art.

Ultimately, foreplay can help a couple feel closer and more intimate, which generally leads to both partners feeling more aroused.

Foreplay is "about building an emotional connection
and getting some excitement going”
says Herbenick. 

Foreplay tips that will drive your partner wild

In order to be able to better connect with your partner, foreplay requires elements of communication – verbal and physical, expression of emotions, and consideration of time, place, and self. 

Now foreplay is different for everyone, but here are some helpful foreplay tips to create the ultimate state of arousal for you and your partner.  


First and foremost – communication. Both in and out of the bedroom. It’s important for each partner to gauge an understanding of what works for each individual — this is best communicated out of the bedroom as a starting point. You can’t know what someone likes without asking, nor will they know what you like. Be open… let the communication flow. 

Sex games

Play a game. Yes that’s right, play a saucy sex game. Not only will it lighten things up, but it may just open ideas you’ve yet to dabble in… That sounds like fun, right? 

Dirty talk

Dirty talk. Yes, dirty talk. This works for a lot of people. Try it out, it may work… Start with telling your partner what you want to do to them, or what you want them to do to you…

Tantric massage

Tantric massage, specifically yoni massage. Yoni massage is a form of tantric sexual practice that is devoted to massaging the vagina. Yoni is dedicated to the slow and sensual exploration of the body and can help guide women, who have yet to experience orgasm, to reach climax through its soft and loving approach. 


The power of gentle touch is incredibly underrated. Something until recently, I had long forgotten about… A soft kiss on the nape of the neck, a single finger tracing the skin of your lower back… a hand gliding between your inner thighs followed by lips teasing long after… Now if you want to get backs arching — gentle touch followed by teasing is the ultimate form of foreplay. 

Implement this with sensual/yoni massage and erotic oils and you’re en route to one incredible state of arousal… 


Scent is an important part of igniting your foreplay experience with your partner, unlike other senses, scent connects directly to the limbic system which houses the area of the brain that deals with memory and emotions. Scent triggers emotions and memories making it a unique experience and one to use to your advantage. We have an array of scents that can contribute to any experience you are wanting to relive, over and over again. 

Each of our aphrodisiac essential oils has a unique and specific recipe to enhance a very specific mood and desire for the evening… or morning.


Tempts exotic, warming, and uplifting blend of aromatic essential oils will not only re-energise your drive. 

Its powerful sensual aroma, will also awaken your inner passion and push you to explore each other in ways you’ve never experienced before.


Tease is an irresistible and alluring blend intended to have a calming, yet revitalising influence. 

The rich blend of Lavender and Ylang Ylang essential oils Instills calmness and relaxation. With teasing hints of Rose Geranium and Sandalwood to inspire romance and increased sexual desire.


Tantalize with a sweet Ylang Ylang and the woody and exotic tones of Sandalwood, this intense essential oil blend relaxes and inspires a real sense of letting go and enjoying the moment.

What are the best sexual oils? Those that bring out your desires, increase sensations and satisfaction. The ones where you can’t wait to touch yourself or find an even better place for fun! Have a browse through each of our products and try something new.

Hopefully, you’re now ready to try out some of our creative foreplay tips. So what are you waiting for? Set the mood for Foreplay Your Way with a touch of Wildfire Oil.

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