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The Secret to The Female Orgasm

The Secrets to the Female Orgasm

There’s no secret recipe for the female orgasm, but there are a few things that can help increase your chances of achieving one. Listen to us. We know a thing or two about the best recipe to reach the female orgasm, and here are some of our best tips. 

Whether with your partner or going solo, this will surely leave you satisfied with the result. As an extra addition to our secret female orgasm, we recommend you introduce our Cooling Arousal Oil. Please feel free to use it throughout every stage of this degustation. 

1. The Entree

When choosing an entree to accompany the main, we want something light enough to get us in the mood but with just the right flavours to make us beg for more. When starting to stimulate yourself or your partner, begin at the nape of the neck and slowly make your way down, outlining every curve and sensitive spot you can find. This is your chance to bring out the Cooling Arousal Oil and begin to apply it to the clitoris.   

There are many different areas for the individual. It’s your challenge to find out where they are. If clothing is part of this entree, now is the time to remove it and enjoy what is underneath. 

2. Main Course

You’re not alone if you find it difficult, even impossible, to climax from direct stimulation of your clit. The truth is that most vulva-owners cannot achieve orgasm via vaginal penetration alone – so let’s try and focus on achieving one of these areas or both. If you haven’t experienced a climax for a hot minute our Arousal Oils are here to guarantee* to awaken your nerve endings and begin to increase your blood flow. 

Now that you have found some of her/your weak spots, it’s best to know what you’ll be working with, so here’s a little explanation.

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The Clitoris

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Although some have claimed not to find this tiny organ, it’s not that difficult to find. The clitoris has a high concentration of nerve endings that can be located right near the top of the vulva. There is a small “clitoral hood” that covers the clitoris.

The reasoning is to protect females from being stimulated all the time. The reveal of the clitoris may need a little bit of persuading, either from your tongue or from touch. Once aroused, the clitoris will become erect, and just from a subtle arch of the back or a moan, you’ll know you’ve found it. 

The G-spot

After finding the first area to play with, the next is inside the vagina. You’ll find this two inches up from the pubic bone on the inner, upper wall of the vagina.

Activation is as simple as gently sliding your finger or fingers inside with your palm facing up. Once inside, curl your finger up.

It’s best to find and ask what your partner does prefer as some love this area to be played with, whereas others prefer less pressure on this sensitive area. 

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3. Dessert

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If you’ve got this far into the article, you know we are here to achieve the female orgasm.

Given you have taken a note or two, you’ll be sure to guess the dessert is a dedication to providing maximum stimulation to the clitoris or G-spot (or both!).

Finally, this is your choice for which dessert you’re after, or maybe you are just throbbing for all three. 

The female riding position

The female riding position, this position provides some of the best stimulation of the G-spot, given the angle you will be inside her. A small tip would be to grab her hips and guide the rhythm and speed you both desire. 

Doggy style

Doggy style, and no, there is no polite way to say that. However, this position isn’t best for clitoral stimulation however it provides an excellent position to find her G-spot. Why not make it a little interesting and reach around for her clitoris. 


Sitting is possibly the most intimate of the three, providing you are both comfortable having your partner sit on your lap. Enabling deep penetration stimulating both the clitoris and the G-spot. Being that close to one another allows for the whole intimate experience. 

A Final Thought

Suppose you have reached the climax; congratulations. We hope our oils assisted in heightening your experiences, and if you still haven’t got the full potential, don’t be afraid to ask your partner for feedback, to make sure she likes what you’re doing. Women may want to consider working with a sex therapist or getting a medical checkup to see if any health issues or medications affect their ability to reach orgasm. Achieving the female orgasm may require trial and error, but don’t forget to have fun while trying. Your sex life will thank you.