First dates – the infamous occasions that we either love or hate, eagerly anticipate or begrudgingly dread. While expectations and experiences change from person to person, there are a few first date rules that should be followed if you want to make a good first impression. Follow these simple guidelines and you’ll be well on your way to date #2. You can thank us later…
DON’T – be late
Showing up 15 minutes after you planned to meet might be fine for those movie nights you have with your best friends, but it’s definitely not a good way to begin a potential relationship. If you’re notoriously the tardy one in your group, make the extra effort to get ready earlier or jump in the car with extra time to get to your destination. You don’t want to be that person who leaves their date in limbo, so be organised and be on time.
DO – have a positive outlook
As we mentioned earlier, there are two types of people when it comes to first dates – the ones who expect it to be a hit, and the ones who prepare for the worst. This tip is for anyone who tends to be the latter. Positivity is key to a successful first date, as it gets you in a great mood and fills you with excitement rather than fear or nerves. Your date will be able to feel the happiness coming off you and it will steer the conversation and the experience in the right direction. So for all you pessimists out there, slip into something a little more light-hearted – first dates can be made fun with simply the right mindset.
DON’T – try and play it too cool
When you’re excited for a first date, it can be tempting to tell yourself to downplay that excitement for fear of seeming too eager so soon. But while you don’t want to propose to them five minutes after you’ve met, you don’t want to hold back too much of that interest. Playing it too cool can lead to you seeming disinterested in the conversation, which could give off the complete opposite vibe and make them think you’re not into them at all. So don’t be afraid to flirt, smile and laugh to your heart’s content; we promise that good things happen when you put yourself out there.
DO – discuss topics that you’re passionate about
They say you shouldn’t discuss politics or religion in the workplace or at the dinner table – but on a first date, there’s really no reason to stray away from the issues that are important to you. If you’re passionate about a political issue or feel connected to a particular cause and are looking for someone who might share those views, this is a great way to gauge your compatibility. Remember though – don’t become confrontational if your opinions differ, and don’t tell yourself that it won’t work out if you don’t completely see eye-to-eye. After all, it’s much better than awkward small talk.